A friend sent me this article. It appeared in the Chicago Sun Times. I found my self saying "yes" and "amen" several times. When will this stop and people get committed. It really is not "me-church." Let me know what you think.
Brett
Church hopping a selfish act
July 8, 2007
BY BETSY HART
Church hopping is the ultimate ''all about me'' experience.
I'm not talking about church shopping -- moving into a new community or deciding to start attending church and then visiting churches until becoming a member as soon as reasonably possible. And I'm not talking about leaving one's church after finding unaddressed scandal in a church's leadership.
I'm talking about the growing tendency in America's evangelical churches for folks who decide, after they have officially joined a particular church, that ''Oh, that pastor down the street is a little more high-energy than mine,'' or ''Gee, the music here isn't really meeting my needs right now.'' They just up and leave and go to a new church. Until they hop from that one.
Respected Christian pollster George Barna, the Christian Science Monitor and other publications, and any Protestant pastor will tell you that church hopping is an increasing and insidious trend. Here's where I really agree with my Roman Catholic friends when they say: ''You Protestants are so focused on your 'personal relationship with Christ' that you forget it's not all about you.''
Exactly. I see people come and go from my own congregation. Sometimes I know the reason, and sometimes I don't. But I do know that every time a person who has made a public vow of membership leaves for superficial reasons, he leaves a unique hole. The departure dispirits the pastor and often the children and other members.
Hopping from a church when a desire, or even a real need, isn't being met in the moment means that person can't ultimately be held accountable in his religious life. He just hops if he doesn't want anyone reaching out to him.
One of the best ways to discourage hopping is for the receiving church to encourage him to return to his home church, but there are a lot of unfortunate disincentives to doing that.
Unlike a job, or a neighborhood, or a school, the sentiment of Christian Scripture is that, barring something extraordinary, church members really don't have a right to hop. We have little sense anymore that we are to join a church body and submit to its authority. Even when there are things that don't suit our fancy in the church. Sure, we often can and should try to change those things for what we consider the better.
Submission may even entail suffering, like dealing with conflict with other church members instead of just walking away.
We treat our church membership a lot like we treat our marriages. Hey, if I'm not ''happy'' in the moment, just move on, right? The impact on others or a pledge to something bigger than ourselves doesn't matter because ''it's all about me.''
Hoppers are typically unsatisfied no matter where they hop -- because perfection doesn't exist in this world.
Monday, July 23, 2007
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Important Meeting!
If you consider Whipple Creek your home church, you are encouraged to attend our Family Meeting this Sunday right after church. This is a very important meeting as we inform the family where the church is going and what it is going to take to get us there. I believe this meeting is one of the most important ones we've ever had. I believe God is up to something big at Whipple Creek. The whole staff feels it. Exciting, but challenging days are ahead for us. Please come on Sunday. Childcare will be available for up to 8 years old.
I look forward to seeing you Sunday!
Brett
I look forward to seeing you Sunday!
Brett
Thursday, July 5, 2007
Burn Baby Burn!
Sorry I've been absent from the blog life, but life has been going on.
Lately I have been wondering what will it take for us to continue to be a real church?...Our church adventure has entered a new phase this past summer with us moving into our new church campuses and into the community in which we are going to be a part. So now, we begin to grapple with what it means to be missionaries or "missional" (more on this in future blogs) in this place.
I've had conversations with other local Christian groups that rattled my cage, as they reminded me again of the shape we may be ‘expected’ to take as a church.
One group wants to take on a complex and courageous project in a nearby area to (in their words) “to help churches 'build bridges' into the region and make connections with local people”.
I also bumped into a small group in the local "pastors" hangout who were planning a children’s ministry program – again to ‘build bridges’ with the local community. And I began to wonder… when will we have all our programs up and running? When will we be able to say ‘this is what we are doing?’ Is that even what we want to do?
As I began to reflect on this idea of programs as ‘bridges to the community’ I got disturbed. I mean have we ever really thought through what that says?...
It seems to me, to imply that there is the church community and then there's the local community and these are two separate entities. And because of that we need to try and ‘connect’ them... because typically they are not well connected. Somehow we need to create ways for church folk to mix it up with those who are not part of our churches.
Does that sound just a bit like an ‘us and them’ thing – perhaps even an artificial thing?
Now, I am not opposed to decent programs, but if their purpose is simply to be a bridge between ‘us’ over here and ‘them’ over there then count me out. Programs that serve the community are great, but I am not at all convinced that people who have either intentionally or unintentionally isolated themselves from ‘the world’ will make genuine connections in any program.
I'm particularly not interested in being a church that runs all the typical stuff that the community already has i.e. playgroups, craft groups. Why would we want to develop another one when a perfectly good one already exists and there are people running it, insurances covering it, buildings housing it?...
Do we think we can do better than people who don’t know Jesus? Or do we only believe its possible to share the gospel in a ‘christian’ environment?
I'm pretty sure that at some stage we will do something that could be called a program, but wouldn't it be great if we were able to meet a deep need in the community rather than simply trying to create an evangelistic bridge?
When I consider 'bridges into the community' I believe having my neighbors for a meal is just that. I don't need a program to help me do it though. Helping my neighbor with his yard or his boat is a great point of connection (and I get a free beer for it!)
It seems that sometimes it is the quality, relevance and number of programs that validates us as a church. The more you run the better you are doing. And programs have been our keys to evangelistic connections rather than naturally forming relationships.
I felt a little deflated today when I realized again that our goal is not to get some programs up and running so we can 'establish a presence and a profile' (I’m told that is important) but rather to genuinely connect with people in natural ways.
I also wonder 'why would we want to establish a 'presence and a profile’?... Does a church really need that?
What if?... we were ordinary people with ordinary jobs who went to work, came home and were ordinary members of the community... but we were deeply committed to Jesus and his mission, both at work and in the neighborhood?
Would we need programs to serve as bridges?...
Maybe programs have been a crutch for our fumbling attempts at sharing the gospel or genuinely connecting with people in their worlds. Maybe it’s saying 'come to a gig we run where we hold the ropes and you can play along and all will be well'. Maybe they have made us feel like we are 'doing evangelism'?
In saying this I know that I am going to have to deal with the questions that will come my way such as "Just what are you guys doing over there?! How can you be a church and not do anything?!"
When the measures of effectiveness shift then the practices that lead us to be 'effective must inevitably change also.
Hopefully we will keep the focus and not fall prey to the need for affirmation of our whiz bang programs. Hopefully we can also recognise when a 'program' will benefit the community and we will make it happen.
Hopefully we will get to know the people in our street and love them and spend time with them and our greatest hope is that we will see them come to know the Jesus we follow…
But for now I’ll be burning my bridges.
Lately I have been wondering what will it take for us to continue to be a real church?...Our church adventure has entered a new phase this past summer with us moving into our new church campuses and into the community in which we are going to be a part. So now, we begin to grapple with what it means to be missionaries or "missional" (more on this in future blogs) in this place.
I've had conversations with other local Christian groups that rattled my cage, as they reminded me again of the shape we may be ‘expected’ to take as a church.
One group wants to take on a complex and courageous project in a nearby area to (in their words) “to help churches 'build bridges' into the region and make connections with local people”.
I also bumped into a small group in the local "pastors" hangout who were planning a children’s ministry program – again to ‘build bridges’ with the local community. And I began to wonder… when will we have all our programs up and running? When will we be able to say ‘this is what we are doing?’ Is that even what we want to do?
As I began to reflect on this idea of programs as ‘bridges to the community’ I got disturbed. I mean have we ever really thought through what that says?...
It seems to me, to imply that there is the church community and then there's the local community and these are two separate entities. And because of that we need to try and ‘connect’ them... because typically they are not well connected. Somehow we need to create ways for church folk to mix it up with those who are not part of our churches.
Does that sound just a bit like an ‘us and them’ thing – perhaps even an artificial thing?
Now, I am not opposed to decent programs, but if their purpose is simply to be a bridge between ‘us’ over here and ‘them’ over there then count me out. Programs that serve the community are great, but I am not at all convinced that people who have either intentionally or unintentionally isolated themselves from ‘the world’ will make genuine connections in any program.
I'm particularly not interested in being a church that runs all the typical stuff that the community already has i.e. playgroups, craft groups. Why would we want to develop another one when a perfectly good one already exists and there are people running it, insurances covering it, buildings housing it?...
Do we think we can do better than people who don’t know Jesus? Or do we only believe its possible to share the gospel in a ‘christian’ environment?
I'm pretty sure that at some stage we will do something that could be called a program, but wouldn't it be great if we were able to meet a deep need in the community rather than simply trying to create an evangelistic bridge?
When I consider 'bridges into the community' I believe having my neighbors for a meal is just that. I don't need a program to help me do it though. Helping my neighbor with his yard or his boat is a great point of connection (and I get a free beer for it!)
It seems that sometimes it is the quality, relevance and number of programs that validates us as a church. The more you run the better you are doing. And programs have been our keys to evangelistic connections rather than naturally forming relationships.
I felt a little deflated today when I realized again that our goal is not to get some programs up and running so we can 'establish a presence and a profile' (I’m told that is important) but rather to genuinely connect with people in natural ways.
I also wonder 'why would we want to establish a 'presence and a profile’?... Does a church really need that?
What if?... we were ordinary people with ordinary jobs who went to work, came home and were ordinary members of the community... but we were deeply committed to Jesus and his mission, both at work and in the neighborhood?
Would we need programs to serve as bridges?...
Maybe programs have been a crutch for our fumbling attempts at sharing the gospel or genuinely connecting with people in their worlds. Maybe it’s saying 'come to a gig we run where we hold the ropes and you can play along and all will be well'. Maybe they have made us feel like we are 'doing evangelism'?
In saying this I know that I am going to have to deal with the questions that will come my way such as "Just what are you guys doing over there?! How can you be a church and not do anything?!"
When the measures of effectiveness shift then the practices that lead us to be 'effective must inevitably change also.
Hopefully we will keep the focus and not fall prey to the need for affirmation of our whiz bang programs. Hopefully we can also recognise when a 'program' will benefit the community and we will make it happen.
Hopefully we will get to know the people in our street and love them and spend time with them and our greatest hope is that we will see them come to know the Jesus we follow…
But for now I’ll be burning my bridges.
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